Wednesday, September 30, 2009
This is a time when i can be myself, I feel no pressure to be someone I am not, I am accepted and can generally discuss anything I wish to (or not discuss anything). Spending time with these people and knitting energises me after a long arduous week of work, it can relax my stress. I also get incredibly agitated if work is going to impinge on it in any way.
I have pockets of this in my wider life but do wonder if I should seek out more. At work I am lucky to have 2 pairs of colleagues who provide this human space. Two peers who i share leadership responsibilities with and with whom I have an incredibly frank, often laughter filled, open relationship, managing people can be rewarding but it can also be draining, frustrating and at times painful. The other pair of colleagues are of my era, have similar senses of humour as well as an almost (but not quite) identical set of cultural references. We are often able to respond to the events of the day with shared references and laughter and discuss what next over coffee and lunch. This relationship does extend to creative pursuits outside work as part of the retreat from work-a-day humdrum.
My core circle of friends that has mainly sprung up around a couple I went to university with has pockets of this. Partners, additional acquisitions etc has made larger groups of this more about debate and occassionally finds me more guarded. But in one very small central core of this that sense of sanctuary and ability to say whatever i want and need is there. We do make efforst to maintain this smaller circle for ourselves.
At home my wonderful dh is able to provide me both sanctuary when I am in need of retreat and support (and I to him) and debate when I am in need of a good intelligent exchange of ideas. Our core values are similar so we are not at complete loggerheads but are able to explore disagreements and differences with passion and humour. Occassionally we will also just bicker about stupid things for fun, which drives both our mothers mad but always ends in us laughing ourselves silly.
I think the key is that laughter - all consuming moments of shared humour or absurdity are the recurring theme of all these relationships and are universally present in these interactions. So I will continue to seek out those I can always laugh with.
This gives me the perfect chance to share one of my favourite bands (Weddings Parties Anything) and their song "Island of Humour" the original had Billy Bragg...enjoy.
I am really looking forward to the challenge. I have of course picked a time when I have a paper to finish by mid-next week for presentation to a conference, a new team member starting next week and a lot of other work on the horizon. I may have also mentioned a certain spinning course which will probably also take up a bit of my time.
I have this powerful personal image of myself from my mid to late twenties where I achieved amazing amounts both personally and professionally at a time when i was really, really (incredibly) busy and am thinking I might be trying to recapture that (just a little) by challenging myself to do just a little bit more.
- Handmaiden Casbah in Amethyst
- Dream in Color Smooshy in Visual Purple
- Madelinetosh Tosh Sock Yarn in Wood Violet
- Malabrigo Sock in Violeta Africa
- Have You Any Wool Luxe Sock in Amaranthine
- Cherry Tree Hill Supersock Solids in Purple
- Cherry Tree Hill Supersock Select Semi-Solids in Iris
A wonderful Present if I do say so myself.
Monday, September 28, 2009
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Saturday, September 5, 2009
Tea (thank god for gas)
Fathers day Present giving (coffee cup)
Walk to markets admiring spring gardens
Markets breaky -Coffee, bacon and egg roll, iced tea ( cranberryand
Blocking tool additions foam centred cardboard and EVA skins
Halloween costume supplies for O
Garlic, onion and corn
Flowers - poppies
Setup T and O to watch Kung Fu Panda
Make scones, whip cream serve scones with Jam, cream and passionfruit
Now TV (AFL), knitting (Icarus) and tea! T having a beer!